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CNN goes inside the PIVOT men’s retreat
CNN correspondent Rob Picheta spent five days at a PIVOT Glass House men’s retreat and wrote about what he found there.
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Healing
Resentment and Grief After a Breakup: How to Hold Both
Resentment and grief after a breakup come together, and each can make the other feel like a lie. Here's why you feel both & how to hold them.
Attachment
The Wound Doesn’t Leave. You Learn to Live With It Differently.
Why old wounds resurface long after you thought you'd healed, and the truth about healing timelines the quick-fix industry won't tell you.
Attachment
When Your Pain Becomes Your Identity: What Being in a Victim Role Actually Looks Like
The signs of victim mentality: blame, powerlessness, looping thoughts, and how to move from pain as identity back into your own power.
Attachment
When a Relationship Ends and Your Body Still Holds On
Discover what an attachment storm is and why some breakups trigger full-body reactions. Navigate withdrawal and heal deep attachment wounds.
Growth
We’re Focusing on the Wrong Problem
Move from gender blame to personal growth. Learn why focusing on your integrity and patterns leads to stronger & fulfilling relationships.
Growth
We’re Over-Diagnosing and Under-Integrating
Beyond the ADHD label: survival patterns, emotional dysregulation & misalignment often fuel procrastination and shame in high-achievers.
Growth
ADHD Isn’t the Whole Story
Many high-achieving men labeled with ADHD are actually battling survival patterns and misalignment. How PIVOT helps w/ emotional regulation.
Trust
Narcissistic. Avoidant. Or Armored?
Labeled narcissistic or avoidant? It's often armor from survival patterns—not your identity. Explore PIVOT's structured roadmap to clarity.
Dating
Why So Many Good Men Struggle on Dating Apps and What to Do About It
Why good men struggle on dating apps: fantasy vs. reality, unexamined patterns, and mismatched expectations. Date with clarity and direction.
Trust
Signs Your Partner Wants to Reconcile (And When to Be Cautious)
Wondering if they want to get back together? Here are the clearest, research-informed signs your partner is ready to reconcile.
Healing
When Should You Walk Away From Your Marriage?
Wondering when to walk away from a marriage? 10 clear signs, a quick safety checklist, and LCSW-reviewed answers, plus what a walkaway spouse looks like.
Attachment
Why Am I Attracted To Unavailable People: How To Break The Pattern
Why am I attracted to unavailable people? Learn the attachment roots of the pattern, 10 signs of emotional unavailability, and how to break the cycle.