Author: Lori Jean Glass

The attachment we establish in the early years of our childhood can have a massive impact on our adult relationships. Some people, on the one hand, get overwhelmed with the wants and needs of others, which might prompt them to run away. Others may crave connection, but harbor a fear of abandonment and causes them to cling on. 

These two descriptions refer to people with avoidant and anxious attachment styles, respectively. Unfortunately, avoidant and anxious individuals often find themselves attracted to each other, which may lead to a whole range of unhealthy patterns in their relationships. 

Sounds familiar? Don’t worry. While you may experience powerful feelings that are hard to manage or tolerate, there are ways to build healthier boundaries and patterns in your relationships. For one, you may attend a love avoidance intensive workshop, or work on uncovering and healing your core wound yourself. 

We understand how confusing, painful, and damaging the co-addictive tango between an anxious and avoidant partner can be. Luckily, with self awareness and adequate support, you can heal your attachment wound. Read on. 

What Is An Anxious Avoidant Relationship?

Whereas a person with a secure attachment would be able to comfortably depend on others, it isn’t so easy for anxious and avoidant people. Because of this, a relationship between an avoidant and anxious person can be riddled with difficulties. 

If you’re unsure if you have an insecure attachment, ask yourself this:

Do you have an unmet longing for connection?

Are you able to be alone, without falling into despair when your partner isn’t around? 

Do you feel a loss of self when someone else gets too close?

 Like your partner expects too much from you and takes too much of your time? 

Insecure attachment can take numerous forms. It generally tends to involve negative relationship expectations, loss of control, and intense reactions to rejection and conflict. 

Why Do Anxious And Avoidant Partners Find It Hard To Leave One Another?

Imagine this scenario: a man meets a woman who seems mysterious and independent. She seems hard to get, doesn’t open up easily, and shows affection at all the right moments. The man, who had negative experiences with women in the past, is drawn to her, almost compulsively. It seems to him that she has everything he’s looking for, but he needs to work hard to gain her affection and approval. 

Such a relationship may work well for a while. It may be passionate, exciting, almost dangerous. As the man continues to pursue the woman months or even years after the relationship started, he may grow increasingly anxious. He might become needy, invasive, or desperate. On the other hand, the woman may withdraw even further, trying to find ways to escape the clutches of the relationship. She may lash out or avoid conflict altogether. She may seek escape in other people or activities and develop secretive behaviors. 

While it is fairly easy to see how damaging this relationship pattern can be from the outside, it is much harder to identify and break off an unhealthy relationship when you are in it. There is a reason why anxious and avoidant people are attracted to each other. 

The behaviors of the avoidant partner, however damaging, reflect the learned patterns an anxious individual was exposed to in their family environment and past experiences, and vice versa. It is a vicious cycle, one that relies on the core wounds of each partner to keep on going. 

Can Avoidants Have Successful Relationships?

If you have avoidant tendencies or have a partner who does, it is likely the case that you struggle to find ways to make the relationship work. If you feel engulfed and overwhelmed by your partner’s needs, you may find it hard to trust and respect your partner. You may find that your fantasies involve secrecy, a new life away from your present reality. 

True intimacy may seem threatening to you. Another possibility is that you struggle with speaking your mind and harbor resentment deep inside, blaming your partner for the shortcomings of your relationship. 

Your current reality doesn’t have to be painful. While it may be best to end a relationship you’re presently in, you might also be able to make it work, with patience and support. By making peace with your inner child and working on abandoning unhealthy patterns, you’ll learn to find satisfaction, calmness, and security in your relationship. 

Can A Relationship Between An Anxious And Avoidant Work?

As already mentioned, it is possible to rebuild your relationship if there’s enough motivation and will. Unfortunately, some learned survival patterns may be so deeply ingrained that the process of ‘unlearning’ them might take years. 

Still, by choosing to ignore your problems and pain, you will only allow the cycle to continue and hurt yourself more in the process. Here are some guidelines you can follow to improve your relationship with an anxious or avoidant partner: 

• Take your time and work on one problem at a time. 
• Understand how your experiences shaped your attachment style. 
• Work on being vulnerable and learn healthy conflict.
• Learn to create healthy boundaries.
• Be willing to both listen to your partner and share your thoughts. 
• Seek support from professional relationship coaches. 

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Whether you have experienced betrayal in your relationship or feel like you open up to your partner out of fear of being hurt again, know that you’re not alone. At PIVOT, we have developed a variety of coaching modules designed to help you and numerous others find the motivation and support to create healthier relationship patterns. 

We have a range of workshops and retreats for couples and individuals, all based on compassion and experience. With our carefully designed curriculum, known as the PIVOT process, you can learn to evaluate your thoughts and feelings and take appropriate action to improve your relationships. Contact us today and start working on facilitating positive change by going through the PIVOT process. 

Have you ever seen a friend or a family member struggle in a relationship and wondered why they still chose to stay? Did it seem unreasonable? It tends to be much easier to detect an abusive relationship from the outside. What happens when you’re the one experiencing abuse in a relationship? Why is it so difficult to leave, despite all the red flags that may be so obvious to people around you? 

A part of the answer to this question has to do with trauma bonding. This common pattern occurs when an individual develops an unhealthy attachment to an abusive partner. Trauma bonding is also often tied to codependency, an excessive reliance on a partner who is narcissistic, or suffers from an addiction or illness. 

If you have experienced trauma bonding in your relationship, you may be unaware of the many ways it can impact your emotional wellbeing. In this article, we will explore how trauma bonding occurs, whether it can become healthy, and how it can be released with appropriate intensive coaching. Read on to find out how to stop it in its tracks. 

What Is Trauma Bonding In A Relationship?

Trauma bonding can happen when a partner repeatedly abuses another person, yet fuels their need for love and validation. You are most likely to experience trauma bonding in a romantic relationship, It is also possible for this pattern to occur in your professional life or your family. 

While other aspects of an abusive relationship can often be easily detected, this is not the case with trauma bonding. One reason for this is the persistent emotional manipulation done by the abuser. Through gaslighting, love bombing, and numerous other manipulation tactics, the abuser may convince you that their harmful behaviors are normal. 

As a trauma bond forms, you may feel like you need more and more validation from your partner, develop a sense of loyalty, or rationalize their behaviors. This gives the abusive partner more power, enabling them to continue the manipulation. 

Signs Of Trauma Bonding 

Unfortunately, it may take months or even years for you to realize that you are in an abusive relationship in which a trauma bond has formed. You may be aware of the hurt and confusion, but unable to distinguish between true reality and the one created by your partner. To help you avoid or break this dangerous pattern, here are some common signs of trauma bonding: 

• Defending and justifying the abuse 
• Agreeing with the reasons for the abuse 
• Arguing with close family members and friends who are trying to help 
• Distancing from family members and friends 
• Being hostile or defensive when someone tries to intervene 
• Not being able to break the trauma bond despite seeing the signs 
• Maintaining the sense of loyalty and love toward the abuser even after leaving 

To illustrate the point further, a person in a trauma bond may say: 

• “I don’t plan on leaving her. I’ve never been more in love. You’re just envious.” 
• “He is treating me this way because he’s obsessed with me. He just loves me too much, I know you don’t understand.” 
• “I just can’t stop being dumb and making him angry… It is all my fault, I’m so stupid.” 

How Does Trauma Bonding Happen?

Abuse reinforcement is at the core of trauma bonding. The manipulative partner may alternate abuse with highly positive experiences, especially at the start of the relationship (known as love bombing). Once the trauma bond starts to develop, it gets strengthened over time, as the manipulation continues. As time passes, you may find it more and more difficult to detect the signs of abuse, as the abuser may isolate you from your close friends and family and ‘train’ you in a way, to stay in the relationship. 

Even if you are aware of the toxic behaviors, you may be so conditioned to keep forgiving your partner that leaving becomes near impossible. You may feel stuck, confused, and incredibly lonely, all without support. 

Can A Trauma Bond Become Healthy?

Since trauma bonding can cause the abused person to deny toxic behaviors, they may maintain hope that the relationship can be saved. For example, you may think that your partner will love you more if you become ‘better’. They may change their ways with your love and support. Unfortunately, transforming a trauma bond into a healthy attachment rarely happens, although it is possible to stop one from forming before it’s too late.  

If you know that you are in a toxic relationship, seek help. It may seem difficult, even impossible. However hard it may seem, it is possible to break the bond and manage the symptoms of trauma with appropriate support. 

How Do You Release A Trauma Bond?

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Speaking with a compassionate relationship coach, whether online or in person, can help you manage the difficult emotions involved in trauma bonding. At PIVOT, we specialize in helping individuals like you break apart from unhealthy relationship dynamics. It is natural to seek love and validation, and we are here to help you gain insight into your feelings and thoughts.

Explore our carefully crafted workshops for couples and individuals and learn how to deal with conflict in a healthy way, express yourself without fear, and treat yourself with love. Contact us now. 

You’ve probably encountered the phrase “inner child” thrown around on the internet or your social circle. And there is a good reason for that. While the concept may seem cliché, it is a simple, yet useful idea to understand and discuss. Most people carry scars from their childhoods, and the child within them remains needy, just like any other child. This child is vulnerable, damaged, and unable to meet its own needs. 

While understanding the concept of the inner child is not too difficult, healing your inner child can be a particularly long and strenuous process. Still, however difficult, getting in touch with your inner child can help you modify unhealthy patterns in your relationships, such as conflict avoidance, neediness, and other issues stemming from your attachment style. 

A remote relationship coach can help you a great deal if you would like to better understand and care for your inner child, as they can provide professional guidance and insight that keeps your unique circumstances in mind. In the meantime, keep on reading to learn more about the concept of the inner child and how you can use it to heal your emotional wounds. 

What Is The Inner Child Theory?

Of course, having an inner child doesn’t mean that there’s a kid living inside you. It also doesn’t mean that you only think and believe childishly. What it does mean is that your unconscious mind has a childlike aspect. This childlikeness can spring up when you face a challenge in your adult life, acting as a ‘subpersonality’. 

This inner child essentially reflects the child you once were. Your unmet needs, longings, and suppressed emotions, along with your childlike creativity, joy and innocence are still present within you. 

The concept of the inner child is often attributed to Carl Jung. His ‘child archetype’ is an important part of the individuation process, the development and integration of the different parts of the self into a healthy, functioning whole. According to Jung, the child archetype can help us reconnect with the past and recollect our childhood experiences and emotions, both positive and negative. It can also help you mature and find a way to work toward a better future for yourself. 

How Do I Know If My Inner Child Is Wounded?

You, just like any other child, wanted to be cared for and loved. So if you received affection from your parents, caregivers, and relatives only when you were “good”, your inner child may be angry, sad, or rebellious. On the flip side, if you experienced any form of abuse or trauma in your younger years, you might have developed strategies to hide your vulnerability and pain as a survival pattern. 

Your inner child may also cling to the things you were taught to believe about yourself and others. If you have an inner voice telling you to keep your true thoughts to yourself, that you are not good or smart enough, or that all things sexual are somehow ‘evil’ or ‘dirty’, that may be your inner child speaking up. 

Here are some other signs that your inner child may be wounded: 

• You harbor a deep fear of rejection and abandonment 
• You struggle setting healthy boundaries 
• You feel shame when you want to express anger or sadness
• You have a hard time trusting other people and yourself 
• You have a tendency to please people and avoid conflicts 

What Does Reparenting Yourself Mean?

Children don’t depend on their parents and caregivers only for their basic needs. Your parents also teach you how to understand, express, and manage your emotions, how to set boundaries, soothe yourself, and show compassion. If you were deprived of unconditional love and healthy relationship models in your childhood, it is very likely that you struggle with your emotions and behaviors in your adulthood. 

With this in mind, reparenting yourself means giving yourself the emotional support you didn’t receive in childhood. You may think that social and emotional skills are innate. That you’re somehow missing what others seem to have or know. But remember, these are only learned behaviors. And it is not too late to start learning and giving yourself the care and attention you deserve. This is precisely what reparenting yourself is all about – learning to meet your own needs and support yourself with love and compassion. 

How Do I Reparent My Inner Child?

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There are many ways in which your wounded inner child can affect your adult life. You may have an exceedingly hard time dealing with betrayal. Or you might develop anxious or avoidant tendencies in your relationships. If you feel stuck, vulnerable, ashamed, or hurt in any way, finding appropriate support can be life changing. At PIVOT, we offer compassion-based relationship coaching for individuals struggling with childhood wounds and unhealthy attachment patterns. We can also help you heal through carefully designed workshops that target the emotions and behaviors that prevent you from living your life with joy and contentment. Reach out now and start your healing journey the right way.

Not everybody experiences relationships in the same way. While some people find intimacy and romance to be effortless and filled with joy, others struggle to make romantic relationships work. If you’ve given relationships a try however they haven’t worked, you may be wondering, like others, that  you may be better off single. 

Being single can sometimes be the right choice. You may not feel ready to enter a romantic relationship, feel like you need to work on yourself, or simply feel like relationships are not for you. Still, if starting and facilitating a relationship is something you want to work on, attending a specialized workshop may provide you with the resources and skills you need.

In this article, we will discuss what it means to be alone and whether some people are more suited to a solitary life, Read on. 

Are Some People Meant To Be Alone?

For many people, being alone can be a frightening prospect. They might yearn to find that special someone and enter a committed relationship with them, and the thought of being alone may terrify them. On the other hand, there are people who seem to be entirely content with being single. They aren’t too interested in entering a serious relationship or any relationship for that matter, and the idea of spending most of their time alone doesn’t sound all that bad. 

However, there are other people who might long to be in a relationship and feel included, but they’ve felt rejected or unlovable for most of their life. This can fuel rage and hostility, and cause these individuals to withdraw and distance themselves from everybody in their life. 

No matter where you fall on this spectrum, remember that there’s no shame in being single for whatever reason just like there’s no shame in committing yourself to a serious relationship. Everyone is different in the way they approach love and relationships. 

Is It Bad That I Like To Be Alone?

If you feel perfectly comfortable spending most of your time on your own, engaging in your favorite activities, why would that be a bad thing? You may feel like being alone gives you a feeling of integrity and independence, or you may embrace your alone time more than other people around you. After all, your happiness is what matters. 

If you do feel deep down that you’re avoiding relationships because of a deep-seated fear of vulnerability or a feeling of being unlovable, you may not actually like being alone. But how can you tell? How can you know for sure whether you’re choosing to be alone for your own happiness and wellbeing or shielding yourself from something? 

If you’re wondering, consider the following statements and see if they apply to you. 

Do Loners Fall In Love?

Often, loners aren’t averse to affection and relationships, they just don’t go out of their way to find them. If you identify yourself as a loner, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you can’t or don’t want to fall in love. It may simply be that you just haven’t met the right person yet. If you do have a desire to enter a relationship, it is quite likely that you’ll run into someone who values your individuality, shares your interests, and respects your alone time. 

Can Loners Be Happy?

When you hear the word ‘loner’, you may get the stereotypical picture of an individual who doesn’t like people, withdraws to spend their time inside their own home, and harbors resentment because of their isolated lifestyle. However, many people who enjoy being alone aren’t angry, bitter, or disenchanted, but simply embrace their alone time. They tend to feel good about themselves and appreciate the rich inner world they created in solitude. In fact, their independent and self-sufficient nature can make them rather attractive to others. 

The bottom line is that you can be perfectly happy alone, but only if you feel comfortable with yourself and feel no resentment towards others. If you’re not alone by choice and want to change that, however, you can find the support you need to find true happiness in a relationship. 

Attend A Relationship Building Skills Workshop And Find Connection 

Whether you feel happy alone but want to bring some change into your life or you’re tired of spending your time in solitude, make sure to contact PIVOT. We are a team of compassionate and dedicated relationship specialists who can help you facilitate positive change. We offer both individual coaching tailored to each client and intensive workshops for couples who want to work on their relationship. No matter what your needs may be, you can count on us to provide you with a personalized coaching experience and help boost your wellbeing. Contact us today. 

Do you feel like no matter what you do or which turn your life takes, you can’t seem to be content with the way things are? Or are you in a relationship that ‘should’ make you happy, but you still feel unsatisfied? 

There is a whole range of reasons why you may feel unhappy in your relationship and life in general. If you are looking for a way to improve your relationship and your overall well being, and find happiness in the little things, private couple retreats for reconnection may help. In the meantime, keep on reading to find out why you may be unhappy and what you can do to change that.  

Why Am I Not Satisfied In A Relationship? 

Continuously wanting more out of life is a common human condition. Often, we learn at an early age to compare ourselves to other people. Later in life we feel like our current dissatisfaction of not enough can only be cured by getting more recognition and power, a better job, or a better partner. We seem to be reaching for something that remains out of grasp or cling to something long gone. 

If you’re not sure if you recognize yourself in this, think about the thoughts that intrude your mind on a daily basis. Do you constantly think about how things should be or should have been, are you continuously doubting and evaluating your choices?   Are you longing for something that keeps slipping away? 

This can be seen as having a ‘wanting mind’ that causes us to not feel satisfied, regardless of what we actually do have in life. If you’re unsure if having a wanting mind is what’s making you unhappy, remember the last time you craved for something and managed to obtain it. How long did the satisfaction caused by attaining the object of your longing last? How long after did you start longing for something else? The root of the problem here is that we keep replacing old desires with new ones, due to a belief that we’ll find the key to happiness in something outside of ourselves, instead of looking within. 

What Causes A Person Not To Be Satisfied?

What Do You Do When You’re Not Satisfied In A Relationship?

While you may be struggling with a constant feeling of dissatisfaction caused by a ‘wanting mind’, it may also be the case that your relationship isn’t actually meeting your needs. After all, if you don’t feel good in a relationship, whether because your partner doesn’t value your integrity, you have no common interests, or you’d simply prefer to be alone, then it may not be the right one for you. A good way to deal with dissatisfaction in a relationship is to be honest with your partner and yourself, communicate openly, and discuss any issues you may be dealing with. 

How Do I Increase Satisfaction In A Relationship?

Whether you’re dealing with an overall sense of dissatisfaction or feel unhappy in your relationship, there’s no reason to beat yourself up over it. There are ways to increase your satisfaction and nurture relationships that meet your needs. Here are some tips: 

• Set realistic expectations: setting your expectations too high or too low can exacerbate your sense of dissatisfaction. Instead, try to set goals for yourself that are firmly based in reality and aren’t out of your reach. 
• Increase self-awareness: by getting to know yourself better with all your virtues and flaws, you can learn to be more humble and realistic. Looking inward can also help you avoid basing your sense of worth on external sources. 
• Express gratitude: in order to break the shackles of a wanting mind, you can try teaching yourself to be thankful for what you have. Being grateful for even the smallest things in your life can help increase your overall happiness. 
• Celebrate your successes: why not congratulate yourself for your accomplishments, both large and small? This may be as little as getting out of bed in the morning or starting to work out regularly. Celebrating your wins can help boost your confidence and life satisfaction. 
• Be open and honest: communicating your needs and wants with your partner in a positive manner can enhance your intimacy and trust. It is also important to try and be honest with yourself and identify realistic paths for growth. 

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Sometimes, trying to understand yourself and your life situation can become overwhelming. Instead of withdrawing and giving up, you can pick yourself up and work on your emotional wellbeing with a little push. At PIVOT, we work hard to help individuals and couples deal with their relationship problems and the general demands of everyday life. 

Whether you are an individual looking for a compassionate relationship coach or want to attend an intensive workshop with your partner, the dedicated staff at PIVOT is at your beck and call. Reach out to us now and take the first step towards lasting happiness. 

Most people would probably agree that being honest and authentic in your romantic relationship is crucial for nurturing a lasting bond. In fact, a great deal of intimacy problems in a relationship can be resolved with open communication and a willingness to embrace vulnerability. After all, isn’t it good to strive to get to know the people closest to us and let them know our most vulnerable thoughts and feelings, too? Why would we hide anything from the person we care the most about? 

Naturally, honesty has a crucial role to play in relationships. However, the idea that honesty is always the best policy is not absolute. There is a definite grey area in all relationships, just like life in general. With the exception of intentionally lying in order to cheat or trick your partner, there certainly can be some situations in which diplomacy and honesty may be at conflict. 

Is It Best To Be Honest In A Relationship All The Time?

It’s highly likely that you’d get a positive answer to the question of whether honesty is important in relationships from most people around you. But the key here is to discuss what honesty means to each individual. For some, being honest means being open to your partner about your whereabouts, about your personal history, or your deep fears and insecurities. 

For others, however, honesty may mean saying what you mean at all times, even if it means offending or hurting your partner. If honesty means open and constant criticism for you, you may find yourself struggling to maintain a relationship or make your partner feel unlovable and unworthy. 

Private Thoughts 

This is not the only grey area when it comes to honesty in relationships, however. Most people have extremely private thoughts that they are hesitant to disclose to others, no matter how close they may be. They may even be dishonest with themselves about their most private and vulnerable thoughts. 

These private thoughts may range from completely harmless, such as finding a stranger on the plane cute, to those that may be more hurtful to your partner, such as having a sexual fantasy with a person you both know. While it may seem like you or your partner are not supposed to have such thoughts, they are perfectly natural, and disclosing them may only create doubt and uncertainty in your relationship. 

How Does Honesty Affect Relationships?

Honesty is a cornerstone of any lasting relationship. It can help create a sense of trust and safety for both you and your partner and help you overcome any challenges that come your way without fear. Here are some other positive effects of honesty in relationships: 

• By being honest, you can help your partner to better understand you and find ways for your relationship to grow. 
• Honesty can prevent doubt and suspicion in your relationship. Your partner won’t have to guess what you’re feeling and thinking.
• If you lie or withhold important information about yourself from your partner, they are likely to feel betrayed and hurt, which may breed resentment.
• By nurturing a relationship based on trust, you can learn to be more honest with yourself as well. If you and your partner are able to listen to each other without judgement, you’ll be less ashamed of your less gracious acts and thoughts. 

Overall, honesty can greatly increase your satisfaction in a relationship. Without it, you may get stuck in a relationship you’re unhappy with or be unable to overcome your fear of vulnerability. 

Can Honesty Hurt A Relationship?

Just like with many other things in life, the role of honesty in relationships isn’t as clear cut as it may seem at first glance. Complete, uninhibited honesty can have a number of negative consequences on relationships. Of course, these effects of honesty can vary depending on your and your partner’s personalities. For instance, some people value directness, even if it means receiving criticism from their partner. Other people, however, may be more defensive or prone to internalizing even the slightest negative remarks. 

People come from different backgrounds and have different expectations of relationships. You and your partner may both be comfortable with sharing even the most private thoughts with each other, but that may not be the case in all relationships. Respect, understanding, and mutual trust are often dependent on honesty, but may also depend on the unique nature of each person and the relationship in question. 

How Can I Be Honest In A Relationship?

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Whether you’re struggling with honesty in your relationship, need help maintaining your integrity, or worry that your relationship will be ruined by a lack of affection, don’t hesitate to contact PIVOT. We can provide you with the relationship-building skills you need to improve your relationship and attain emotional stability. Our expertly designed individual coaching sessions and couple retreats are designed to bring positive change into your life and help you heal your core emotional wounds. Get in touch with us now. 

In order for an intimate relationship to be successful, some compromise is often necessary. When a relationship is based on fairness, open communication, and trust, both partners are likely to feel heard, valued, and secure. However, it is not uncommon for partners to go overboard when trying to meet their partner’s needs and expectations, at the expense of their own. 

Although integrity may have different meanings for different people, it can be said that having integrity in a relationship means being able to adhere to your principles and values while treating your partner with due respect and consideration. While open cooperation in relationships often means willingly giving up certain wants and desires, it can be quite difficult to achieve balance, especially when important needs are concerned. 

If you or your partner struggle with maintaining integrity, learning to build trust in a relationship in a specialized workshop may provide you with the necessary insight and skills. In the meantime, read on to find out what integrity means in relationships and how you and your partner can achieve it.  

Why Is Integrity Important In Relationships?

Integrity often entails vulnerability, honesty, and authenticity. It is based on respect, kindness, and gentleness that serve to maintain your own sense of worth and ensure the success of your relationship. While you don’t have to agree with your partner on all occasions, you can treat them with compassion and openness. This may mean discussing important issues and making decisions together with your partner, while trying to accommodate their needs, as well as your own. 

A relationship that lacks integrity, on the other hand, may involve keeping score, blaming, devaluing the other person’s needs, and bringing up past hurts. Instead, integrity may mean staying committed to resolving the problem at hand with kindness, humor, and compassion.

What Are Signs Of Integrity?

In the basic sense of the term, integrity means being honest and having strong moral principles. Individuals with integrity may show some or all of the following traits: 

• Taking responsibility for one’s actions: an individual with integrity recognizes that their behavior has impacts on other people and is willing to adjust it. Keep in mind that this doesn’t mean pleasing everyone. Instead, it means that you strive to be the best person you can be, for yourself and others. 
• Praising the successes of other people: when you have integrity, you don’t feel threatened by other people’s accomplishments. You help other people feel good about themselves, too instead of putting them down. 
• Not using personal attacks in arguments: integrity means being able to stand your ground in an argument without finger pointing and name calling. You are able to understand both points of view and remain calm and collected when arguing. 
• Willingness to listen: similarly, a person with integrity may rarely assume. Instead, they know that there often are at least two different sides to each story, and take their time to listen and ask questions before acting. 
• Valuing the needs of others: integrity doesn’t mean sacrificing for others in a way that damages your own well-being. On the contrary, it usually means putting others first in a way that shows respect and dedication. 

How Does Integrity Build Trust?

Integrity is key for building trust, both in ourselves and our relationships. You may build self-trust by monitoring and evaluating your behaviors so as to understand your principles and whether your actions are in tune with them. You can build trust in other people by observing how they behave and get to know their principles, too, and see whether your principles match. 

If you maintain integrity in a relationship, you can create a foundation of trust, enabling both yourself and your partner to feel valued and respected. This may enhance relationship satisfaction and longevity, especially if both parties are dedicated to building trust. 

How To Keep Your Integrity In A Relationship?

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At PIVOT, we take a compassionate, holistic approach to helping individuals and couples achieve lasting relationship happiness. Through individual coaching designed to target your core wounds and highly focused workshops for couples, we can provide you with the resources and knowledge you need to heal and facilitate positive change in your life. 

If you are ready to take the first step towards achieving emotional equilibrium, make sure to get in touch with PIVOT. Our dedicated team can tailor your coaching experience to your unique needs and give you a chance to improve your wellbeing. Get in touch with us today and start working on a better you.