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Love Addiction: Navigating Through Heartbreak

Posted on by Lori Jean Glass

Love addiction, a term which we call attachment dysregulation, can cause apprehension and insecurity in romantic relationships. Love addiction can be heartbreaking, dysregulating, and just plain exhausting, both for the person struggling with love addiction and for their loved ones. Fortunately, with targeted intervention from an experienced relationship coach, love addiction can be overcome. 

Here is our guide to navigating the rocky waters of love addiction. With the right support, healing and healthy relationships are always possible.

Table of Contents

What Is Love Addiction, Really?

What Causes Love Addiction?

Understanding the Love Addiction Cycle

Love Addiction Symptoms

Facing Love Addiction Head-On 

Love addiction couple

What Is Love Addiction, Really?

Destabilizing patterns of behavior
A preoccupation with romantic partners
An inability to be single

Love addiction, also referred to as pathological love, is a behavioral pattern characterized by an overwhelming and unhealthy preoccupation with romantic partners. This excessive interest often leads to a lack of control, obsessive thoughts and behaviors, and a driving need to have attention, validation, and reassurance from another person. 

Love addiction is about a deep, unmet longing that drives people to desire a relationship to make the pain go away. In this respect, love addiction is similar to other addictions since it involves obsession, cravings, and withdrawal.

Also, like drug addiction, people struggling with love addiction often struggle to achieve satisfaction. There is never enough. And, like drug addiction, many people who are told they have a love addiction KNOW they want things to be different but feel unable to stop the behavioral cycles they find themselves in. People who are stuck in these patterns often need a relationship coach to help them break the cycle.

Woman with love addiction

What Causes Love Addiction?

Insecure attachments
Withdrawal from love
Core wounds

Early childhood relationships are the first place to look to understand how love addiction forms. Love addiction is a response to relational damage caused by early unmet needs. 

As adults work through the causes of their love addiction, they often realize that issues in their relationships relate back to their childhood experiences. They’re drawn to what’s familiar, regardless of merit. This means they can be drawn to people who cause them pain repeatedly, even if they don’t mean to be. 

People often find themselves inexplicably recreating the painful experiences they endured when they were young. This normally happens unconsciously and unhealthy patterns may be passed downfrom one family generation to the next. It takes careful, intentional work to change these patterns.

Love addiction can be a way of coping with emotional distress, pain, or fear and can provide a temporary sense of fulfillment or pleasure. The relief experienced often feels like well-being, but it usually doesn’t last. Dysfunctional attempts to heal inner pain from an outside source often perpetuate cycles of pathological love.

An Insecure Attachment

Love addiction and attachment disorders can develop when individuals try to fill the void left by a significant emotional or psychological childhood wound. When children do not receive the emotional nurturing and healthy attachment they need from caregivers during their formative years, they may develop an insecure attachment style that makes them more prone to the problematic feelings and behaviors of love addiction. This frequently looks like anxious attachment in adulthood.

The origins of anxious attachment could be from a parent who was frequently gone, who couldn’t stay connected, or who had their own wound and couldn’t nurture their child. Losing a parent at a young age, divorced parents, or having a parent who wasn’t a stable presence are often triggers for love addiction later in life. Any shift in caregiving that feels unsafe or confusing, such as foster care or changing homes among relatives, can cause people to feel insecure in their attachments. 

Circumstances like these, and others, can lead to an adult life spent craving attention and reassurance. There is a longing for connection and security, but when it happens, it’s coated in fear and worry – what if it goes away? What if I’m not enough? What if I do something wrong? How can I be sure they won’t leave? 

People with love addiction tend to resonate with the term “attachment disorder” upon looking at the emotional challenges of neglect and abandonment they experienced in their childhood. Because their deep unmet longing is hard to tolerate, the individual is often left feeling lifeless and empty. They spend years, sometimes a lifetime, trying to repair childhood longing through their partners. Attempt after attempt leaves the sufferer baffled, as romantic partners and romantic love fail to quench their cravings and meet their expectations.

Sometimes other diagnoses may have been given by a licensed therapist or other mental health professional. For example, substance addictions, depression, anxiety, personality disorders, or trauma diagnoses can be co-occurring. These additional diagnoses can be underlying or the unintended result of the dysfunctional attempts to soothe the pain of living with the original emotional wound: the attachment injury.

Withdrawal

Most love addicts who are unable to end a relationship will try to “fix” it and prove to themselves that they are “worth the love they are fighting for.” For them, “winning” often means their romantic partner stays with them and that the intimate relationship continues, regardless of the quality. They do not have a solid sense of self-worth outside of a relationship, so they may protect it to the point of their own self-detriment.

They are found in a highly destabilized position when abandoned, often unable to function at work or in social circumstances because of a withdrawal from love. The pain of real or perceived rejection and abandonment feels intolerable. And once the addictive rush of the honeymoon phase is over, perceived rejection and abandonment are visible everywhere. 

It’s very hard in attachment withdrawal to see that there are healthier ways to engage in relationships. At this point, a person may likely feel desperate and unworthy. Their self-esteem is plunging, and often, the belief is that only the attention of a romantic partner can help. This is true withdrawal.

Love Addict Core Wounds

If someone has experienced any of the following and has not taken the time to heal their wounds, they are likely to be susceptible to what some call “love addiction”:

  • Parents got divorced when they were young
  • One or both parents had untreated mental illness
  • They were adopted
  • They lost a sibling or parent at a young age
  • They were abused
  • Their parents were emotionally unavailable
  • They were neglected
  • They were abandoned
  • They didn’t get validation from their parents

These experiences drive the need to want either overly dramatic and intense emotions in relationships or detach completely for fear of neglect and abandonment. Both compromise the ability to have healthy, secure attachments.

In either case, the result is a disconnected and unhealthy relationship.It’s important to note that love addiction can have multiple causes, and each person’s experience is unique. Understanding the underlying causes of love addiction is an important step toward recovery and developing healthy coping mechanisms.

Understanding the Love Addiction Cycle

Unfortunately, “love addicts” usually pick a love-avoidant person to partner with, which triggers an unhealthy cycle, because the love-avoidant person is terrified to have anyone get too close, so they push their partner away. People with love addictions are not satisfied by love-avoidant types, but they are normally drawn to them because the dynamic is familiar. Love addicts live in a chaotic world. They are fearful of being alone or rejected, so they endlessly search for that special someone to make them feel whole.

They become attracted to the intense experience of “falling in love” instead of wanting the peace of healthy relationships. Once a relationship has grown comfortable, they can mistake stability for boredom – OR they can become terrified that their partner has become bored or disinterested. Once the intensity of falling in love has simmered down, worry often follows because relational normalcy feels unfamiliar. They have a very hard time learning to experience feelings like contentment and relational safety.

Their life choices become focused on the search for this perfect relationship. This search for immature love leaves a person in constant consideration of what their partner wants. They live in the hope of finding the one person who will fill their inner void, and their expectations in relationships are often unrealistic.Furthermore, people with love addiction struggle with setting boundaries and communicating their needs in a relationship. They may prioritize their partner’s needs and wants over their own, which can lead to feelings of resentment in the relationship. Relationship coaching can help break this toxic cycle.

Struggling with love addiction

Love Addiction Symptoms

Fears of abandonment
Cravings for attention and romantic validation
Chaotic, unstable relationships

What Does Love Addiction Look Like?
Feeling Behaviors
Anxiety
  • Avoiding abandonment and rejection at any cost
  • Trust issues – difficulty trusting and/or difficulty being trustworthy
  • Ongoing perceptions of abandonment or rejection
  • Inability to leave unhealthy relationships for fear of being alone
  • An anxious reluctance to identify and express wants and needs
Sadness
  • Attempting to numb out loneliness or rejection with other behavioral addictions
  • Feelings of shame and guilt
  • Using relationships and sex to improve mood and relieve pain
Instability
  • Difficulty maintaining friendships
  • Financial problems
  • Jumping from relationship to relationship and a fear of loneliness
  • Drawn to emotionally unavailable people
  • Maintaining a secret “double life”
  • Hungering for the experience of falling in love, but lacking success in maintaining healthy relationships
  • A tendency to mistake intensity for intimacy
  • A tendency to mistake chaos for excitement
  • A tendency to tolerate high-risk behaviors
Neediness
  • Needing regular confirmation of commitment and loyalty
  • Feeling lost without a love object to pour their attention into
  • Unrealistic expectations of relationships
  • Cravings for positive regard
  • A continuous need for reassurance and validation in a relationship
Obsessiveness
  • Obsessive thoughts and/or daydreams about partners
  • Investigative behaviors in a relationship
  • Romanticizing the notion of addictive love
  • Abandoning other interests during a romantic relationship
  • Experiencing other compulsions and addictive behaviors to cope with feelings
  • Confusing love and sexual attraction
  • Fantasizing about a romantic relationship when given attention
Anger
  • Diagnosing or labeling romantic partners when their needs aren’t met
  • Intense sense of rejection when others set boundaries
  • Inner rage caused by early abandonment and lack of nurturing

It’s important to note that each person’s experience with love addiction may be different, and not all individuals will exhibit all of these signs and symptoms.

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Facing Love Addiction Head-On

You aren’t stuck.
You aren’t alone.
Healing is possible.

Love addiction is not a fixed way of being. It’s the result of heart pain and brain processes that can be healed with loving care and skilled attention. 

Since these behavioral patterns often begin with unmet needs in childhood, the resulting wounds and attachment injuries follow into adult relationships. For many people, it’s a do-over-and-over-and-over because the reward system of the romantic relationships created are never able to provide the deep healing needed to soothe those early wounds and painful messages. 

Just because someone comes from a dysfunctional family doesn’t mean they can’t create secure attachments and have healthy relationships. Even if they’ve had a traumatic childhood or experienced a devastating or unhealthy relationship, they can still heal. Believe it or not, everybody is capable of that… and, importantly, everybody is worthy of that.

Healing from love addiction

Break the Pattern of Love Addiction With a PIVOT Workshop

If you are struggling with love addiction, you aren’t alone. And you are already taking steps towards healing by reading this and researching love addiction. It isn’t easy to face pain and take an honest look at yourself, but remember, you are capable of happiness, love, and a healthy relationship. 

If you are looking to overcome love addiction, then contact PIVOT. Our team provides evidence-based methods to support your journey toward healing. At PIVOT, we are committed to the sincere belief that ANYBODY can experience the relational satisfaction, inner peace, and profound freedom that comes with healing those early attachment injuries and disconnecting from the survival patterns of love addiction. We’ve seen success again and again.

Our specialized relationship coaching and love addiction retreat gives you sequenced action steps for behavioral change. We can help you get on the right track toward a healthy and happy relationship. Call us today at 1-855-452-0707 to begin the journey.

How to Change Your Behavior in a Relationship

Posted on by Lori Jean Glass

In the delicate balance of relationships, our behaviors affect not only ourselves but also our friends and partners. When toxic patterns emerge, they can disrupt the harmony of the relationship, leading to pain and disconnection. Recognizing the need for change is the first courageous step toward mending what’s broken. The next step is learning how to change your behavior in a relationship.

How to Change Your Behavior in a Relationship

Changing toxic behavior begins with a shift in attitude. It’s about moving from resistance to willingness. Healthy partners must be willing to face uncomfortable truths, be vulnerable, and commit to growth.

This shift requires us to soften our defenses and embrace the uncomfortableness that comes with change. It’s about understanding that true strength lies in our ability to adapt, to let go of destructive patterns, and to cultivate behaviors that encourage love and respect. People can change their behavior in a relationship if they first hold themselves accountable and decide they want to change.

How to Change Toxic Behaviors in a Relationship
Communicate

Communication in healthy relationships is respectful, trusting, and structured so everyone has a chance to feel heard.
Set Boundaries

Communicate what behaviors are acceptable and how you will respond if someone crosses your boundaries. Remember, you can’t change someone else’s behavior, only your own reactions.
Clarify Your Feelings

Sharing your feelings openly, honestly, and without accusation can help you process your emotions and connect more deeply.
Develop Emotional Regulation Skills

Emotional regulation can help the quality of existing relationships by maintaining stability and improving communication.
Find Professional Guidance

If you’re having trouble overcoming trust issues or other challenges on your own, a skilled relationship coach can help guide you.

If any of these behaviors seem too confusing or difficult, attending a relationship retreat can be an immediate and effective way to help you unlearn toxic behaviors and replace them with healthy strategies to navigate your relationships.

How Toxic Behaviors Impact Relationships

Toxic behaviors can manifest in many forms—whether it’s controlling tendencies, harsh criticism, or emotional withdrawal. These actions, often rooted in fear, insecurity, or unresolved trauma, can erode the very foundation of a relationship. The impact of such behaviors on you and your partner can be profound and can create a cycle of hurt that stifles both partners’ ability to grow—individually and together.

How Toxic Behaviors Impact Relationships
Impact to Individual

If you are reading this, you might have a sense that you have some toxic behaviors. You might feel misunderstood, isolated, unfairly accused, confused, stressed, or frustrated. You know you are hurting your partner and your relationship, but you don’t know how to change. That is never a good feeling.
Impact to Partner

Toxic behaviors can wear your partner down, hurt their self-esteem, and cause them pain and trauma in the long run. They may feel confused, conflicted, angry, hurt, or lonely.
Impact to Relationship

Relationships require trust and kindness. Toxic behaviors can slowly erode a relationship and wear down the very foundation of your connection. The good news is that this is often fixable, and by learning how to change your behavior in a relationship, you are already taking those first steps.

Recognizing toxic patterns is a powerful act of self-awareness. It requires looking within, acknowledging the pain caused, and understanding the underlying emotions that fuel our actions. This introspection is not about self-blame but about opening the door to healing and change.

Rebuilding What’s Broken

Happy couple

Rebuilding a relationship after toxic behaviors have taken root is not easy, but it is possible. It requires patience, consistency, and a deep commitment to change from both partners. Communication is the cornerstone to having open, honest conversations about the impact of your behavior. Apologies, when sincere, can mend the cracks in the relationship, but they must be followed by actionable change.

Behavioral change doesn’t happen overnight; it’s a gradual process of rewiring our responses and creating new, healthier patterns. Consistency is the key to turning these new behaviors into established habits. You will need to be mindful of your actions, catch yourself when old habits resurface, and gently redirect yourself toward more constructive behaviors. Show yourself grace and self-acceptance while you work to change your behavior in a relationship by:

  • Practicing self-care
  • Being patient and kind to yourself
  • Reminiscing about your relationship’s good times
  • Practicing gratitude
  • Scheduling date nights
  • Trying new things together

Starting the journey of behavioral change in a relationship requires intention and effort. Begin by setting clear goals for the kind of partner you want to be and the relationship you want to build. Engage in self-reflection regularly, seeking to understand the triggers of your toxic behaviors and how to manage them effectively.

PIVOT Relationship Coaching Can Teach You How to Change Your Behavior in a Relationship

The key to changing your behavior in a relationship is first to understand what toxic behaviors you practice and where those behaviors stem from. So much of our reactions and connections as adults can be traced back to our environments and relationships as children. PIVOT has relationship coaches for individuals, couples/duos, and adult families to help you process your behaviors and turn the corner to new, healthier relationships

If you want to do a deep dive and see changes more quickly, a PIVOT relationship retreat at the Glass House is the perfect way to get to the root of your behaviors and begin rebuilding your connections with the people you hold most dear. 

Reach out online or call us today; we can help you learn how to change your behavior in a relationship to begin the journey to a healthier, happier life.

Navigating the Love Addiction Recovery Steps

Posted on by Lori Jean Glass

You may be accustomed to hearing addiction recovery described in sequential steps, but does that apply to love addiction? Recovery from love addiction, otherwise known as attachment dysregulation, requires you to take a deep look at your attachment style, past traumas, and negative behavior patterns to break the cycle of troubled relationships. After all, love addiction usually comes from an unmet childhood need; to recover, you must examine and treat your attachment wounds. An expert PIVOT relationship coach can help you navigate these love addiction recovery steps.

Love Addiction Recovery Steps Require a Deep Look at Your Unhealed Wounds

With the right support, it is possible to end the painful cycle of troubled relationships and heal from attachment dysregulation, but this process requires dedication and time. You’ll need to hire an expert relationship coach to support you as you take an honest look at your early unmet needs and the behavior and thinking patterns that stem from those emotional wounds. Hiring a coach can offer you the guidance and fresh perspective you need to move past unhealthy behaviors and carve a new path forward.

Recovering from love addiction means unpacking early childhood experiences, and this can feel overwhelming at first. Weekly meetings with your relationship coach allow you to do this deep analysis work at a slower pace. If you want to start feeling better quickly, an immersive love addiction retreat at the PIVOT Glass House can help you figure out why you feel the way you feel, why you attach so deeply, and why the feelings are so intense in just 5 days. Think of love addiction recovery as a box of precious belongings: how quickly do you want to unpack? There is no right or wrong answer – the important part is just choosing to begin.

If you are suffering from one disappointing relationship after another and hungry for rewarding, satisfying love, work with our relationship coaches on the love addiction recovery steps below.

Love Addiction Recovery Steps
Recovery Step Description
Recognize you may have a problem Realizing and admitting you have a problem is the first love addiction recovery step. Coming to this realization will take some honest self-reflection. If you recognize the characteristics of love addiction in your life, you can put an end to the cycle by bravely taking this first step of self-awareness.
Take a step back To recover from love addiction, it is essential to take a pause emotionally, especially if you are in a relationship. You must give yourself time and space to do the challenging work ahead without the distraction of emotional turmoil. This doesn’t mean you have to break up with your current partner or swear off love entirely, but you must set aside dedicated time to focus on yourself and your recovery.
Understand where your attachment wounds come from Triggers often come from childhood trauma, which later influences your attachment style. Working with your relationship coach to understand how and why you developed certain unhealthy survival patterns early on can be illuminating and is an essential love addiction recovery step.
Build confidence and self-acceptance Wherever you are on your love addiction recovery journey, you must recognize and celebrate your strengths and positive attributes. Believe you are worthy of healthy love and a happy life. Building self-esteem will help you be a more resilient individual and partner.
Replace old habits This is one of the most challenging love addiction recovery steps, but it’s often the most rewarding. You’ve done the inner work with your coach, and now it’s time to replace your old habits and unhealthy patterns with a new way of being, including proactive strategies for thinking and communicating in relationships.
Build healthier relationships This is an ongoing step you’ll need to practice for the rest of your life. Lean on your new coping mechanisms to align what you feel, how you think, and what you do. This will help you approach new relationships with confidence and resilience.

Understanding the Origins of Love Addiction

To begin the journey through the steps outlined above, it is helpful to understand where love addiction comes from and why it grows. 

Love addiction is similar to attachment disorder. It can feel so confusing to experience it because we are taught early on that love isn’t supposed to feel hurtful or addicting. Someone suffering from love addiction is often searching for a love that makes them feel more confident or more complete. It is about a deep, unmet longing that drives one to desire a relationship to make the pain, self-doubt, or insecurity go away. 

Love addiction is often referred to as attachment dysregulation because it usually originates in childhood with early relationships. When caretakers meet a child’s needs incompletely or inconsistently, the child may have attachment wounds and develop unhealthy survival patterns to deal with them. If left unresolved and untreated, this child is likely to form an insecure attachment style that leads to trouble forming and maintaining secure relationships in adulthood. This can lead to attachment dysregulation or love addiction.

The good news is that we can help you with this. With the guidance of a dedicated relationship coach, people can overcome love addiction and build healthier relationships. We can’t “fix” past traumas or make the pain disappear, but we can teach you to transform your relationship with those wounds so they don’t bleed into your future happiness. Our coaching sessions and immersive retreats offer practical, immediate solutions as well as longer-term practices that will provide you with relief both now and for years to come.

Navigating Recovery With Expert Guidance

Completing the love addiction recovery steps on your own can feel overwhelming and challenging. This is particularly true if you have complex trauma or deep emotional wounds. Fortunately, PIVOT relationship coaches specialize in just this type of challenge, and they are ready to help you heal.

Our expert relationship coaches will help you unlock the past to transform your future. Whether you choose weekly remote or in-person coaching sessions or decide to attend an intensive love addiction recovery retreat, your personal coach will walk you through the love addiction recovery steps. We’ll help you understand and cultivate compassion for yourself, explore how you developed a love addiction, and create action-oriented solutions to start enjoying satisfying romantic connections.

love addiction recovery steps can transform your life

Transform Your Life With PIVOT’s Time-Tested Love Addiction Recovery Steps

If you feel like you’ve tried everything and are still unable to connect to your partner in a healthy way, PIVOT offers a unique process to help you heal. Our love addiction recovery steps have successfully guided thousands of individuals toward a healthier, more fulfilling life. By following our steps, you will recognize and escape the survival patterns that have been holding you back and embrace strategies that will help you build and sustain lasting love.

Our professional relationship coaches are here to support you through weekly coaching and intensive retreats. Call us today at 1-855-452-0707 to begin your journey to a healthier, happier life.

Relationship Burnout: How to Recognize & Overcome It

Posted on by Lori Jean Glass

Are you feeling like you just don’t want to be in your relationship anymore? Do you find yourself making up excuses to avoid your partner? Are you feeling bored or uninspired? Maybe you’ve noticed yourself eating or shopping more to fill the void that your relationship is creating. Or, maybe you and your partner are dealing with infidelity or major life stressors that are tearing you two apart.

In our relationship coaching practice, we’ve worked with so many long-term couples, and we can tell you with certainty that no couple gets to the finish line without a few fights and hard conversations along the way. During the course of a long relationship, there’s usually a challenge that can lead couples to question their feelings or even experience relationship burnout. The good news is that this doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship; in fact, with the right support and some hard work, it can be the beginning of a happy new chapter. 

In this article, you’ll learn how to recognize signs of relationship burnout, what causes it, and how to overcome it so you can begin working towards a healthier relationship.

Are You Feeling Burnt Out in Your Relationship?

How Do You Know If You're Emotionally Exhausted?

If you are reading this, you might be feeling overwhelmed, tired, or confused about your relationship. Coming to terms with feeling burnt out in a relationship can be distressing. You might be worried you are hurting your partner or yourself and what to do about it. 

Similar to career burnout, relationship burnout manifests as a period of intense psychological and physical exhaustion. It is often the result of one of the partners providing love, care, and support but not receiving the same amount of attention in return. It can also be an outcome of bitter conflicts and heated arguments between partners or general disappointment with how the relationship is going. It may feel like the excitement and jubilance of romantic love have faded away, leaving room for feelings of resentment. You might also just be bored and need to shake things up to add more excitement to your daily life. 
If you are feeling burnt out, it’s important to recognize and validate these feelings, otherwise they might fester and develop into something more harmful. A great relationship coach can help you learn how to do just that.

Recognizing the Signs of Relationship Burnout

When you’re going through a rough period as a couple, you might feel like you’re at your breaking point. Although the symptoms of relationship burnout may vary from one person to another, here are some signs to look out for.

If you are struggling with these feelings, you aren’t alone. Many people go through feelings of burnout in the course of their relationship. Luckily, there are ways to work through it.

Burnout Doesn’t Have to Mean the End of Your Relationship

You’re likely to experience burnout at some point during the course of a long-term relationship. It doesn’t mean that you need to split up and start living separate lives. If you are feeling exhausted or detached, don’t waste time feeling guilty about it. Instead, get curious about your feelings. What are they trying to tell you? 

Relationship burnout can serve as a wake-up call: a reminder to allocate time to care for your own needs, have an honest conversation with your partner, listen carefully, spend some quality time together, and relieve yourself of any tension that has built up.

Is Relationship Burnout After a Breakup Normal?

Burnout doesn’t just happen during a relationship, it can also happen after a painful breakup. After a separation, it’s easy to feel gloomy and cynical about love. You may feel like you just gave your all to a relationship, only to suffer the disappointment and heartbreak of it not working out.

You aren’t alone in this. Look for relationship burnout signs like:

This type of burnout is likely the effect of you trying to cope with the effects of emotional trauma. You’ll need time to recover – be gentle with yourself! You may also feel burned out from continuously choosing the wrong partners. If you have an avoidant attachment style and aren’t with the right type of partner, you’ll never be able to create healthy attachments. Spend some time reflecting on the Whole Perspective Wheel to decide what is most important to you in a partner and start honing your relationship-choosing radar.

We often enter relationships based solely on physical and emotional connections, overlooking key aspects like financial, intellectual, and spiritual compatibility. This can lead to unrealistic expectations of both the partner and the relationship. The Whole Perspective Wheel encourages us to view ourselves and our relationships holistically—through spiritual, intellectual, emotional, physical, and financial lenses. By exploring each of these elements, we gain a clearer, more realistic understanding of ourselves and others.

What Causes Relationship Burnout?

Whether you are experiencing burnout during or after a relationship, the first step to healing is to understand what causes relationship burnout in the first place. In terms of emotional investment, think of burnout as an imbalance between what you’re giving and what you receive in return. There are, of course, other factors that can contribute to the feeling of relationship burnout: 

  • A failed expectation that your relationship will give a more profound meaning to your life
  • Unclear boundaries, lack of personal space, or time for self-care
  • Cycles of repeated fighting, misunderstandings, and tension
  • Periods of work or family-related stress, and lack of support between partners
  • Boring or exhausting daily routines and incomplete assignments
  • Certain patterns of relationship addiction, often manifesting as outbursts of jealousy, resentment, or helplessness
relationship burnout, emotionally exhausted partners

What to Do if Your Partner Is Emotionally Exhausting You

If your partner’s insecure attachment style is emotionally exhausting you, it’s crucial to prioritize your own well-being while addressing the situation constructively. 

Once you figure out where you stand and exactly what’s been bothering you, have an honest, open conversation with your partner about how their behavior is affecting you. Use “I” statements to express your feelings without placing blame. Set clear boundaries around the kind of emotional support you can provide without depleting yourself, and be firm about maintaining those limits. Encourage your partner to seek outside support, such as therapy or counseling, to help manage their emotional load so the responsibility doesn’t fall entirely on you. 

Remember to take time for self-care and reflection. Are there any behaviors you are exhibiting that could be causing your partner to feel anxious in the relationship? Ensuring you recharge and have the time and distance to gather your thoughts and feelings can help you maintain balance in the relationship as you work through this.

How to Deal With a Partner Who Is Burnt Out

As distressing as it is to feel burnt out in your relationship, it can be equally as distressing to hear your partner is the one feeling burnt out. Supporting a partner who is experiencing burnout requires empathy, patience, and open communication. Start by creating a safe space where they can express their feelings without judgment, as burnout often comes paired with emotional exhaustion and frustration with the relationship. Encourage them to take breaks and prioritize self-care, whether that means spending some time away from you, engaging in hobbies, or visiting friends. 

Offer practical support by working on yourself to address any issues they’ve brought up about your relationship. Seeking professional help from trained relationship coaches is a valid and effective way to cope with burnout. Above all, show understanding, avoid adding pressure, and remind them that it’s okay for a relationship to go through rough patches as long as you both move forward together.

How Do You Heal Burnout in a Relationship?

If you and your partner are willing to work on your relationship after an emotionally tense and exhausting period, half the work is already done. Once you’ve agreed to work on your issues, you need to determine the root cause of your problems. To do this, you might need an expert outside opinion, like the relationship coaches at PIVOT. 

Our relationship coaches can help you and your partner explore how you both feel and why, individually and together. Whether you’re recovering from a period of intense fighting or trying to rekindle your marriage after a period of separation, these are the tried-and-true tips we use in our coaching practice.

Ways To Heal Burnout in a Relationship
Take Care Of Yourself Be mindful of your physical and mental health. Make sure to set aside time to take care of yourself: work out, meditate, visit friends and other family members, and enjoy your hobbies. Taking care of yourself helps you build resilience to handle future challenges.
Talk Openly Communication is key to resolving any difficult situation. Open and honest conversation, without putting blame on the other person, will shed light on what is going on and how to fix it.
Practice Active Listening Really listen to what your partner has to say; don’t just practice how you are going to respond in your head as they are speaking. And don’t assume you understand everything and that you mean the exact same things. Try to carefully paraphrase what they say and ask if you understood them correctly.
Confide in Each Other Intimacy and confidentiality are some of the most important tenets of coupled life. When feeling emotionally drained, some people tend to seek support from friends, family members, and their children. While it might be perfectly okay to have some type of support outside of your relationship, keeping secrets from your significant other can create an atmosphere of mistrust.
Be Honest About Your Needs Try to be frank with yourself and your partner when discussing your needs, whether it’s more personal space, more quality time together, or more support in sharing household and parental duties.
Show Appreciation If you’re feeling fed up and frustrated with some of your rituals, talk to your partner and try to do something new and exciting. Start a new hobby together, find a new favorite place, or try new food. Whatever you do, just try to break your routines and surprise each other.
Introduce Variety If you’re feeling fed up and frustrated with some of your rituals, talk to your partner and try to do something new and exciting. Start a new hobby together, find a new favorite place, or try new food. Whatever you do, just try to break your routines and surprise each other.

Recover From Relationship Burnout With PIVOT

When you’re ready to work on your relationship, turn to PIVOT relationship coaching. Our expert coaches offer customized support and helpful tools to put your relationship on the path to recovery. We’re here to provide supportive and experience-based coaching and relationship retreats for couples who are ready to put in the effort to recover from relationship burnout. 
Reach out to us at 1-855-452-0707 to transform your relationship.

The Best Couples Retreats of 2024

Posted on by Lori Jean Glass

A couples retreat is an amazing opportunity to recharge and rejuvenate your relationship. It’s rare that you get to spend dedicated time with your partner, so make the most of it by choosing one of the best couples retreats of 2024. 

This list of retreats varies by location, focus, and activities. What they all share, however, is the opportunity to get away together to focus on the two of you. With many unique experiences across the U.S., these are our picks for the best couples retreats in 2024.

Best Couples Retreats of 2024

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Best Relationship Retreat

The Glass House

Location

Nestled in the rolling hills of Northern California, The Glass House provides an idyllic getaway where you can focus on yourselves and each other. Its wine-country location boasts a Mediterranean climate with warm days and cool nights.

Features

A couples retreat at The Glass House provides the opportunity to deepen your connection and focus on intimacy in your relationship through the industry-leading techniques of the PIVOT Process. With comfortable lodging at The Glass House and locally sourced meals, the two of you will spend your days working individually and together with your relationship coaches before exploring the local foodie scene of Petaluma for dinner on your own. You will leave with a better understanding of yourself and your partner and a process for handling whatever life throws at you together.

What Sets It Apart

At the Glass House, PIVOT hosts one couple at a time, ensuring a truly private and personalized experience. When you book your retreat, you’ll answer key questions about yourselves and your relationship goals. Your answers guide staff to carefully select a PIVOT-certified coach for each of you from a diverse pool of professional skill sets, knowledge, and life experiences, ensuring an unprecedented level of customization that meets the specific needs of both partners.

Best For

Couples who want to explore their relationship in a meaningful way.

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Best Yoga Retreat
Feathered Pipe Ranch

Location

The ranch is hidden high in the Rocky Mountains, just outside of Helena, Montana. With a panoramic view of mountain peaks and a spring-fed lake for swimming and boating, this is a dreamy yoga getaway.

Features

Feathered Pipe Ranch is North America’s oldest non-guru-based yoga retreat center. Your yoga retreat includes all instruction and program activities, as well as private or shared accommodations. Massage, bodywork, and day excursions, such as rafting or sightseeing tours, are available for an additional fee.

What Sets It Apart

Feathered Pipe Ranch hosts yoga practitioners and wellness experts to support every yogic style and level of experience. From hatha yoga, yoga therapy, Iyengar yoga, restorative yoga, vinyasa flow, bhakti yoga, Ayurveda, mindfulness, and meditation to shamanism and self-empowerment, there is something for everyone at this mountain retreat.

Best For

Couples who love yoga.

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Best Adventure Retreat
WinShape Retreat

Location

Located in Rome, Georgia, about 1.5 hours northwest of Atlanta, on the beautiful campus of Berry College, this sanctuary is surrounded by 27,000 acres of peaceful pastures, tree-lined trails, wildlife, and a tranquil lake.

Features

WinShape Retreats offers an adventure challenge retreat where couples work together to complete high and low ropes courses. The experience is all-inclusive, providing lodging, meals, snacks, and programming.

What Sets It Apart

The biblically-based and research-informed content strengthens your connection as you step out of your comfort zone and accomplish challenges together. The weekend is fast-paced, active,  and high-energy; it does not include counseling for individual couples.

Best For

Couples who want a challenge.

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Best Wellness Retreat
Castle Hot Springs Resort

Location

The resort is nestled in the Bradshaw Mountains in the rugged Arizona desert, just northwest of the Phoenix/Scottsdale metropolitan area. 

Features

This all-inclusive resort offers couples retreats that include luxurious accommodations, spa treatments, gourmet meals and cocktails, and all gratuities.

What Sets It Apart

This natural oasis in the desert dates back to prehistoric times and remains essentially unchanged.  The healing hot springs are rich in minerals that reflect the ancient, mountainous rock formations. The experience continues to enhance the physical, mental, and emotional well-being of new generations of visitors.

Best For

Couples who want to relax.

Category

Best Spa Retreat

Hotel Wailea

Location

Located on Maui, about 30 minutes from the Kahului Airport, this tropical paradise is built 300 feet above sea level and offers views of three Hawaiian islands.

Features

The exclusive Wailea Hotel is an adults-only refuge offering a tropical retreat. Each luxurious suite is designed especially for couples with one bedroom, a separate living area, a kitchenette, and a private lanai; each includes a daily meal allowance redeemable at several gourmet dining options. Guests enjoy the open-air fitness center, aerial yoga classes, swimming in the private pool, and hikes along the coast. In-room spa treatments are a la carte, as are day excursions that include cruising the coast in a vintage car or relaxing in a beachfront cabana.

What Sets It Apart

The intense beauty of its surroundings sets this luxurious resort apart. Couples craft their own experience to make memories of a relaxing visit to a tropical paradise.

Best For

Couples who want to play.

Revitalize Your Relationship at a Couples Retreat

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Getting away from the day-to-day routine for a couples retreat can infuse your relationship with energy and bring a renewed closeness based on shared experiences. Engaging in adventures and activities that require you to work together strengthens your bond and helps you to grow as a couple. Spending concentrated time and energy focused on yourselves and your relationship can be invigorating.

If your goal is to strengthen and improve your relationship, a couples retreat with PIVOT provides an intensive experience that gives you high-impact solutions in a short period of time. PIVOT couples retreats are private and fully customized. Since each partner has their own personal coach, you can accomplish your individual goals through the PIVOT Process before coming back together to work on your relationship. This unmatched level of support allows you and your partner to achieve a better understanding of yourselves and each other. 

Though there are many scheduling opportunities for retreats at The Glass House each month, another unique feature of PIVOT is that for those who cannot travel or prefer to experience the retreat process from the comfort of their own home, PIVOT-certified coaches can bring a couples relationship retreat to you. If you are ready to strengthen your bond while fostering more meaningful intimacy, join the many couples who have enhanced their relationship at our couples retreats in 2024.

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Transform Your Relationship With a PIVOT Couples Retreat

PIVOT offers one of the best couples retreats of 2024. Our private relationship retreats give you and your significant other the space and support you need to relax, recharge, and reconnect with yourselves and each other. You’ll leave our retreat with high-impact tools for a healthier, happier relationship. You can reach us at 1-855-452-0707.

Love Addiction Recovery Stories

Posted on by Lori Jean Glass
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Many people are confused by the label of love addiction.  Love addiction describes a deep, unmet longing that drives people to desire a relationship to make the pain go away. In this respect, love addiction is similar to other addictions since it involves obsession, cravings, and withdrawal.

Despite its recognition in popular and some academic circles, love addiction is not formally recognized as a clinical diagnosis in major diagnostic manuals like the DSM-5. Some experts argue that the term “addiction” may be problematic due to its association with substance use disorders and the potential for stigmatization. Instead, terms like emotional reliance or affective dependence are sometimes preferred to describe the obsessive and compulsive behaviors associated with love addiction.
If you are feeling shame or uncertainty because you fear this label increasingly describes you, you aren’t alone, and you aren’t stuck. With the right support, it is absolutely possible to heal and create healthier connections. We hope these successful love addiction recovery stories will inspire you to take the first step toward happier relationships.

Why Am I Like This? The Love Addiction Recovery Story of PIVOT’s Founder Lori Jean Glass

I was thirty-seven years old and in a therapist’s office, brokenhearted over another romantic relationship that had fallen apart.

I couldn’t breathe. I couldn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep. I didn’t want to go on.

I was labeled a love addict and told that I was incapable of giving or receiving love. My behavior towards love interests was controlling, and my expectations were unrealistic. I had to accept that love addiction was the thing that had derailed me.

That diagnosis didn’t make sense to me, however. My relationships didn’t feel loving; what I felt was a constant and intense longing to be loved. How could I be addicted to something I was so unfamiliar with?

In fact, I was starving for romantic love… hoping it would finally give me that sense of self-worth and belonging that my heart was hurting for. It had been a longing for…. as long as I could remember. As an adult, I thought that a romantic partner or a love interest might heal the breach in my low self-esteem, although it never quite worked out. But I kept trying.. and trying… and trying. This translated to me becoming a “stage five cling-on.” I couldn’t be alone and always had to be in a relationship.

So, when I was told I had love addiction, it confused me because the “cure” I was given was to not draw attention to myself, stay out of relationships for one year, and attend a “love addicts” group to listen to others share their stories of relationship addiction.

This prescription seemed totally counterintuitive and left me feeling even more abandoned and alone. What I always wanted was to love and to be loved, and now I couldn’t ever have that… because I was addicted to love. Would I have to stay away from love like any other addict would from any other addictive substances? The idea of addiction to love made me feel like I didn’t deserve to be loved. I couldn’t be trusted with love. Love wasn’t safe for me.

As a behavioral and mental health professional, I set out to find answers that made sense. I focused the energy of my early career on the meaning and treatment of love addiction… I worked hard to understand it. After extensive research on the topic, taking a deeper look at the effects of unhealthy attachment, and working alongside my gifted staff of therapists and healers at PIVOT, I came to understand an important reality. Love itself is not addictive. This truth changed everything.

Through sustained and concentrated effort, I learned how to be responsible for my emotions and stand in relational alignment. I created this term to describe a state where your mind thinks in alignment with how your heart feels, and you have the courage to take healthy action with your feet. It allows you to achieve a verticality that is honest, ethical, and authentic to who you are.

Once I found the inner strength to turn my life around, I developed and extensively tested the PIVOT Process, an evidence-based approach to achieving relational freedom. In the years since then, I have helped many, many people write their own love addiction recovery stories. It’s a journey that requires courage, determination, and a belief in your own worth.

Learning to Love Myself: Larissa’s Love Addiction Recovery Story

I truly thought that one person was going to change the way I felt about myself and my life. 

In an interview with my wedding videographer, I openly stated that my husband was “my adonis” and “my knight in shining armor.” Yes, it is on record. I truly believed that he would be the one person who could save me. Poor guy. He never stood a chance at fulfilling my fantasy. 

Sadly, he wasn’t the first to experience this intense passion. I would consistently and anxiously seek emotional validation from every guy who came into my life. I was overly dependent on them and felt like I needed to be with them all the time. I needed them more than I needed myself. My world got very small, and their approval of me equaled my self-worth. That’s a tough way to live, especially because in most of my relationships before I got married, I experienced some form of emotional, mental, or physical abuse. 

Why did I have to lose myself to gain a false sense of self-worth? Why did I have to compromise my mental and physical well-being to get an ounce of their attention? Why was I waiting for their phone calls or making late-night drives by their house to spy on them? Who goes to someone’s house at two in the morning to enter a dark bedroom just to see if that person is asleep in their bed and not with someone else? 

Even when they told me they loved me, it wasn’t enough. It was never enough. I was never enough. That feeling stayed with me into my marriage and family life and created a lot of conflict, drama, and trauma. My marriage was filled with more demands on my partner and less love and connection. I was even addicted to the need to be loved by my children. I was laced with depression, anxiety, and, at times, suicidal ideation. 

It was the suicidal ideation that brought me to my knees and forced me to get help. In the depths of my despair, I realized that I didn’t know what true love really was. How can the pursuit of love be so damaging? Why did love hurt so much? I was in so much pain, and I knew that I needed help. I needed to understand this obsession with the idea of love and why I couldn’t ever really feel it.

I found a wonderful therapist who gave me so much strength and hope, but that feeling of “not being loved” never went away.  It took another 10 years before I was introduced to the work of PIVOT. 

 When I found PIVOT, I found the answer. I had been seeking a fantasy of love. Coming from a childhood of confusion, attachment issues, emotional neglect, and having had several sexual abuse experiences, I developed a hard-core belief system about love. Someone who loves you will take away the pain. Love will take away the pain of feeling like something is wrong with me, that I don’t matter, that I am not enough and that I am very much alone. 

The euphoria of meeting someone new and believing in the fantasy of marriage did that. It took away the pain momentarily. It’s much easier to focus on someone else than it is to focus on oneself. That stops working. Trust me. I was conditioned to believe that someone else’s love was ALL I ever needed. Their love wasn’t enough! His love wasn’t enough! Gaining an understanding of the impact of those messages on me, of being less than, not mattering, not being good enough, feeling alone, and how love is supposed to fix you, was the beginning of my journey. 

Having the ability to repair those thoughts and emotions allowed me more space to heal. Healing is allowing me to learn more about my beautifully unique self. This internal shift I learned from PIVOT is teaching me what love really is. 

Love is more than just a feeling. It’s the action of trust, compassion, and positive regard. The reason why I didn’t feel loved was because I wasn’t being loving to myself. I had so many expectations of myself and so much self-disregard, I actually put more distance between myself and others. 

I’m now working on more appreciation, gratitude, and acceptance. I’m not going to lie and say I love all of me. Hell no! I’m working on that. I’m a work in progress. I won’t say it’s easy or it’s been overnight. I will say that I am my own “knight in shining armor” these days, thanks to PIVOT.

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What Can You Learn From Love Addiction Recovery Stories?

As you read these stories of love addiction recovery, you may see parallels with your own life. What do you have in common? What about these stories resonates with you?

Though love addiction is a descriptive phrase, a more accurate term is attachment dysregulation. This is because the conditions that cause this pattern of behavior often originate in childhood with your earliest attachments. Abuse, neglect, and unmet needs may cause deep attachment wounds—the survival patterns adopted in response lead to the cycle known as love addiction.

For healing to occur, early attachment wounds must be identified, and you must learn healthier ways to cope. While each person’s healing journey to healthy relationships will be different, several things must happen along the way.

Love Addiction Recovery Steps

Steps to Recovery

Essential Actions

Recognition

Before you can begin the journey to love addiction recovery, you must acknowledge that there is a problem. Recognizing the signs and symptoms in your life should be a red flag and an indication that it’s time to seek help. This awareness is the first step towards healing.

Deep Self-Reflection

The crucial next step to true healing involves a thorough self-examination. Through this process, you will learn about yourself and your attachment styles. You will begin to understand where your relational trauma began. The painful wounds underlying love addiction often have their origin early in life, however. Identifying them will require a deep dive with a skilled facilitator. This self-reflection is a key part of the healing journey.

Healing Relational Trauma

To break the cycle of love addiction and begin the recovery process, you must address and understand your early attachment wounds. Increasing self-awareness and boosting confidence will set you up to achieve healthier relationships in the future.

Action Steps Forward

The final step in the healing journey involves taking supported steps forward. An action plan for future relationships mapped out by experts in the field is absolutely essential. Having an accessible toolbox with ready-to-use tools will help you to deal with and rebound from life’s uncertainties as you seek love again.

Undertaking the love addiction recovery journey with help from a seasoned expert provides the support you need to heal past traumas and attachment wounds and move toward healthy love in the future. A relationship coach will help you identify your survival patterns and replace them with healthy, sustainable actions. You will learn to set reasonable boundaries and hone your communication skills through the process. But most importantly, you will realize that you are worthy and capable of finding secure, fulfilling romantic love.

Begin Your Healing Journey With PIVOT

If you are ready to confront survival patterns that have you trapped in the cycle of love addiction, PIVOT has answers. With high-impact options that include relationship coaching for individuals and couples and love addiction retreats at the Glass House in northern California, we have a solution for you. Our personalized and highly customizable process can meet you where you are and help you find a path forward. Reach out today at 1-855-452-0707 to begin writing your love addiction recovery story.

How to Be a Better Partner in a Relationship

Posted on by Lori Jean Glass

Relationships between human beings are highly dynamic, with different personalities, constantly changing circumstances, and unpredictable life events. When two unique individuals are involved, their histories and temperaments shape the relationship…for better and for worse.

Despite life’s challenges, you can learn how to be a better partner in your relationship. Research suggests that even people with an insecure attachment style can grow to be more secure and, in turn, become better partners. The first step in learning how to be a better partner in a relationship is simply wanting to understand and work on yourself to show up healthier in the relationship dynamic! Once you set your mind to that goal, the rest will follow. 

What a Good Partner in a Healthy Relationship Looks Like

Part of how to be a partner in a relationship is continually considering your partner’s feelings and needs in addition to your own. Sometimes, that means making changes or sacrifices. A healthy relationship supports both partners, allowing them to grow as individuals and as a couple.

Qualities of a Partner in a Healthy Relationship

Qualities of a Good PartnerHow It Enhances the Relationship
OpenSharing thoughts and feelings openly creates a vulnerability that lets partners grow closer.
HonestAlways being honest allows trust to build between partners.
RespectfulMutual respect creates a give-and-take that lets both partners grow in the relationship.
EmpatheticBeing able to understand and share a partner’s feelings helps them to feel seen and heard in the relationship.
AffectionateAffectionate behaviors, especially those involving physical touch, are essential for sustaining both a physical and emotional connection.
CommunicativeOngoing and effective communication is necessary for resolving inevitable conflicts.
PatientPatience is essential in a caring relationship, as it gives partners time and space to be themselves.

How to Be a Partner in a Relationship That Thrives

No matter how well-suited you are for each other, it will likely take considerable effort and commitment to sustain your relationship for the long term. Being a collaborative partner means a lot of give and take. So whether you wish to make a good partnership even better or are trying to salvage a relationship that’s in trouble, aspiring to be a better partner will have a significant impact.

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Tip 1: Focus on Your Own Health and Happiness

Improving as a partner in a relationship means first working on your own self-improvement. Recognizing your own needs is crucial; it’s very challenging to give your all unless you are healthy and happy within yourself first. Focus on your own growth so you can show up fully for your partner, while also maintaining a healthy relationship.

  • Be honest with yourself and acknowledge areas of your life in which you could grow.
  • Reframe negative thoughts and behaviors that might be holding you back. 
  • Allow yourself to be more open to new ways of thinking and new life experiences.
  • Take care of yourself, both physically and mentally.
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Tip 2: Show Kindness

It takes just as much energy to be kind as it does to be grumpy or rude. At the end of a long day, adjust your tone and attitude instead of taking your frustrations out on your partner. Show your partner you don’t take them for granted by showing them kindness, patience, and care. These little things can add up to make or break a relationship.

  • Do nice things for your partner regularly. Small things add up: do a chore they hate to do, bring home a favorite treat for the two of you to share, or give them a hug when they least expect it. 
  • Support your partner’s dreams. Try to show interest in their hobbies, friends, and work. You don’t have to take up hockey just because your partner loves it, but showing a bit of interest when it counts can go a long way to making your partner feel loved.
  • Don’t judge your partner; accept them for who they are. Make them feel safe to be themselves, and they should make you feel safe as well.
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Tip 3: Communicate in a Way That Works for You Both

We all know communication is key to healthy relationships, but “good communication” is going to look different for everyone. The key to a thriving relationship is learning to communicate in a way that works for you and your partner, ensuring you are on the same page. What works for one couple may not work for another – that is the beauty and the work of being in a relationship; you have to learn from each other!

  • Learn each other’s love language and show love the way your partner will appreciate it most.
  • Learn your partner’s communication styles and preferences. Communicate in a way that they will understand.
  • Be a good listener and start observing your partner’s non-verbal cues.
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Tip 4: Manage Stress and Conflict in a Healthy Way

No relationship is going to be perfect, and life will throw curveballs at you during the course of your relationship. During challenging times, your partner can be a source of support or a source of stress. It all depends on how you handle conflict and tension, both individually and together. 

  • Lean into stress management techniques like yoga, meditation, and mindfulness. Bonus points if you practice these techniques together!
  • Don’t be afraid to call a time out on arguments and take some space to cool down.
  • Decide together that instead of pushing each other away during hard times, you’ll turn towards each other for support.
  • Don’t focus on “winning” an argument. In a relationship, you are on the same team. There is no such thing as winning; in fact, if one person wins, the relationship loses.
  • Learn to let go. During a long relationship, there will be arguments that don’t have an easy resolution. Consider whether it is worth holding on to, and if not, let it go.
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Tip 5: Make Time for Quality Time

It’s so easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of your days and start taking your partner for granted. Couples who spend time together in meaningful ways are more likely to have thriving partnerships. Find a hobby to do together, try a new class, or just carve out a date night once a month. Make time to remind each other how much fun you have together and how far you’ve come.

  • Try new things together. Take a trip you’ve always wanted to take, try a new class, or learn a new language with your partner. 
  • Focus on fun. Reminisce on good old times. Look through photos and share old stories. Remind each other what you’ve shared together and how far you’ve come. 
  • Carve out dedicated time. Schedule date nights at least once a month. Sit on the porch with some tea and chat for 15 minutes at the end of each day. Making time for each other is essential to keeping your connection strong.

Let PIVOT Help You Learn How to Be a Better Partner in a Relationship

It’s admirable to want to become a better partner for your significant other. However, you might not be sure of exactly where to start, what to do, or how to change your behavior. One of the most high-impact ways to accomplish this ambitious goal is with the help of a relationship coach. Working with an expert in relationship dynamics can provide you with tools and strategies to facilitate lasting change.

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PIVOT offers one-on-one relationship coaching for individuals, couples, and families, as well as private couples retreats. If you are wondering how to be a partner in a relationship, reach out at 1-855-452-0707 to begin the rewarding journey to healthier, happier partnerships.

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